tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post1281661297506123920..comments2024-03-21T03:59:17.725+00:00Comments on Moments from Suburbia: Being believedSuburbiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-90864506333474698762012-12-08T21:30:17.008+00:002012-12-08T21:30:17.008+00:00Thanks Letty
Lovely to hear from you againThanks Letty<br />Lovely to hear from you againSuburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-53245922281869934712012-12-08T21:20:59.147+00:002012-12-08T21:20:59.147+00:00Long ti e since I have read your lovely intelligen...Long ti e since I have read your lovely intelligently and precisely written blog but this post meant so much to me. The whole jimmy Saville stuff kinda got to me. I experienced mild abuse when young way back in the 70s stuff then so vile to me it traumatises me for years and years. I ended up with OCD probs, until I let go with.a therapist . Thanks for posting about this and like all abused I feel for ya xxLetty - A Little Girl With A Curlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08836262006258873208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-58770891451737135242012-10-31T22:09:01.663+00:002012-10-31T22:09:01.663+00:00It's terrible that the usual attitude to confe...It's terrible that the usual attitude to confessions of abuse and inappropriate behaviour is still not to believe the victim, or at least to be sceptical. There still seems to be an attitude that we must pretend men are decent and never admit that a lot of them are predatory and sexually out-of-control.<br /><br />I'm glad your own experiences haven't affected you too badly. A lot of women have been totally traumatised by such experiences. But changing men's ruthless sexual behaviour seems to be an uphill task.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-48966997542892440632012-10-31T09:45:29.755+00:002012-10-31T09:45:29.755+00:00Very difficult to know what you should do - your m...Very difficult to know what you should do - your mum is so old. Is there anything to be gained now? Maybe closure for you? Sorry not much help I'm afraid, but a very intriguing piece from you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-16708255781659131392012-10-31T04:49:06.087+00:002012-10-31T04:49:06.087+00:00It seems this demon hops up about once a year in y...It seems this demon hops up about once a year in your writing. (A year, more or less.)<br /><br />Just how firmly is the lid attached to the box? Perhaps not as firmly as all might wish. <i>Seems</i> like you are peeking in every so often. <br /><br />Maggie's comment about closure is ringing in my mind, too.<br /><br />Blessings and Bear hugs!Rob-bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00171692478879522588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-87907101573758889032012-10-31T03:56:24.781+00:002012-10-31T03:56:24.781+00:00I had a near incident when I was 11 years old and ...I had a near incident when I was 11 years old and never told anyone. I thought I was responsible somehow and felt shamed and like I would not be believed. My parents weren't the kind I could confide in and would have made me feel bad and an issue of it. Little girls do suffer a lot of indignieties at the hands of oversexed men.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-51291834470667028852012-10-30T22:53:05.931+00:002012-10-30T22:53:05.931+00:00Yes Maggie but she is 78 now and still - happily b...Yes Maggie but she is 78 now and still - happily buy her own recent admission - married to him. Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-90404037765292244012012-10-30T22:13:46.413+00:002012-10-30T22:13:46.413+00:00Things were very different when I was a child but ...Things were very different when I was a child but Jimmy Saville overstepped the line very much. Even then that wasn't acceptable, far from it.<br />People don't believe because it was easier to disbelieve. What does one do if it is true? How would one handle it? Men did have the upper hand and women were treated more as possessions.<br /> <br />I remember being *flashed at* when I was a child and I didn't even tell my mother because I thought it was my own fault.<br />I remember it happening 3 times on very different occasions and I felt guilty for just being in the wrong place at the wrong time.<br />Now we have swung the other way and everyone is a possible molester. <br /><br />I think if it was my mum I would want to have a talk about *it* in a non accusing way. You sound as though you need closure.<br />Maggie X<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-45210710250322150752012-10-30T22:09:41.818+00:002012-10-30T22:09:41.818+00:00I'm very sorry that something bad happened in ...I'm very sorry that something bad happened in your life in the 1970s too. I have some clear memories of incidents that made me feel very uncomfortable, but I didn't know what to do or who to tell, so I did nothing. But while I remember them, i don't think they had much of an impact on my adult life xLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.com