tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post7920784226872630981..comments2024-03-21T03:59:17.725+00:00Comments on Moments from Suburbia: Strange days indeedSuburbiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-81491362882077813312009-02-21T21:40:00.000+00:002009-02-21T21:40:00.000+00:00I do hope you have a good stock of Walnut Whips in...I do hope you have a good stock of Walnut Whips in! xthis is my patchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02865567572989902864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-49594049184688647632009-02-19T18:12:00.000+00:002009-02-19T18:12:00.000+00:00I missed this post--now I understand the holiday p...I missed this post--now I understand the holiday packing and frustration about it. As you say, this will be practice for the future--you can be thankful at least that Husband does want to spend time with the children. That isn't always the case. I hope you use the time to pamper yourself!Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384059342847120951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-37329773618743416072009-02-19T16:40:00.000+00:002009-02-19T16:40:00.000+00:00these are surely very difficult times and decision...these are surely very difficult times and decisions.<BR/><BR/>I have nothing wise to offer, except my sympathy with your plight.<BR/><BR/>I cannot imagine how difficult thise must have been for you, was trying to imagine it, putting myself in your place, and I would find it extremely difficult indeed.<BR/><BR/>oh and In Laws, they are the bane of my life! So take no notice of SIL!<BR/><BR/>Letty ;0)Letty - A Little Girl With A Curlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08836262006258873208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-30239786694161957272009-02-19T10:20:00.000+00:002009-02-19T10:20:00.000+00:00Scarlett, I do trust him, we have been together a ...Scarlett, I do trust him, we have been together a long time. I hope and expect that trust to be kept.Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-26247600188796811592009-02-18T22:24:00.000+00:002009-02-18T22:24:00.000+00:00Suburbia, I see red flags all over this!Please tru...Suburbia, <BR/><BR/>I see red flags all over this!<BR/><BR/>Please trust me on this one... <BR/>I wouldn't let him take the kids. I know it looks innocent and all that on the surface, just a holiday... but you really *really* should keep them with you until the divorce is over and you have custody of them.<BR/><BR/>Not sure how it works over there, but I wouldn't trust this move -at all- and it's so true that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.<BR/><BR/>Keep the kids with you until it's all over. Then he can visit them... but don't let them go before.<BR/><BR/>Please, please take heed... <BR/><BR/>Scarlett & V.Wanderlust Scarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551514192060606454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-22608375797371320792009-02-18T20:16:00.000+00:002009-02-18T20:16:00.000+00:00Hmm. Difficult not to see this as a semi-deliberat...Hmm. Difficult not to see this as a semi-deliberate attempt to cause you a bit of heartache... I really do hope your hubby doesn't fall into the the trap of using your kids as emotional ammunition. It's good for nobody - especially not the kids.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-33575384931883097342009-02-18T17:51:00.000+00:002009-02-18T17:51:00.000+00:00I do so understand what you are saying. I am havin...I do so understand what you are saying. I am having very similar problems with my brother (I appreciate that your problems are with your husband) and I now realise that the second chance I gave him a few years ago, for the sake of his children, was a mistake. Stick to your guns. Your intuition is right.cheshire wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944869219641386387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-19805192481074698512009-02-18T16:53:00.000+00:002009-02-18T16:53:00.000+00:00Hmmm.... That's difficult. I wouldn't like the s...Hmmm.... That's difficult. I wouldn't like the situation either, but, as you say, you will have to accept it. The 'mom bag' sounds like a very good idea.<BR/><BR/>For the moment, I don't think that I would take much notice of anything that SIL and her husband have apparently said. I have learnt from my own experience that people 'put their own slant' on things.<BR/><BR/>It sounds as if you may already have something planned to take your mind off things. I hope that you are able to make the most of your few days. They will be back before you know it.Mean Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829239249872290230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-44878760613798195092009-02-18T14:34:00.000+00:002009-02-18T14:34:00.000+00:00I concur on the idea of packing a special "Mom" ba...I concur on the idea of packing a special "Mom" bag! My mom would always slip in something special for us to find when we were unpacking at boarding school. Totally different situation but same sentiment! <BR/><BR/>He's not asking you to pack for him is he?! That would be *way* to much! Packing for the kids I understand--can you imagine what SS would pack if left to his own devices? :D All candy and no underwear? <BR/><BR/>You, however, enjoy your time alone. Dive into that oasis. My imagination still running wild on that one...Dorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17258322944946475959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-76463849046392115802009-02-18T13:41:00.000+00:002009-02-18T13:41:00.000+00:00Thinking of you and agreeing that you must find so...Thinking of you and agreeing that you must find something wonderful to do JUST FOR YOU<BR/>when they are away.<BR/>I feel a bit of a twinge for you too though.....Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03964291132366262298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-11703343640080228672009-02-18T13:32:00.000+00:002009-02-18T13:32:00.000+00:00I love the idea of packing a special bag from you....I love the idea of packing a special bag from you. <BR/><BR/>How important it is, that you let him bond with the kids in his own way. It also demonstrates that he is on some level accepting the change in your relationship. Any maybe after the holiday, he will learn more about the kids' needs and be willing to pack for them himself ;).<BR/><BR/>When grown ups score points against each other, it's the kids who get most hurt. SIL's reaction says more about her than about you.<BR/><BR/>You will experience lots of feelings when they are away. The easiest and hardest thing to do is to let them go and trust that they will be looked after. It's only a few days. I have found that drawing up a timetable of what I want to do in their absence helps me through the wobblies. Oh, and lots of walnut whips.<BR/><BR/>xxxxxxxxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-73051966631255632812009-02-18T13:30:00.000+00:002009-02-18T13:30:00.000+00:00How strange of your SiL, at this stage of a separa...How strange of your SiL, at this stage of a separation, to take sides, act so decisively. Surely it wasn't up to her? Anyway, enjoy the time on your own. You may find it more pleasant than you expected!Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-54928408951357572002009-02-18T12:37:00.001+00:002009-02-18T12:37:00.001+00:00Wow that's a tough one. Difficult time - strange ...Wow that's a tough one. Difficult time - strange days as you say. They pass though, so a fellow blogger reassured me today. We find a way. Good luck, and take care. Jo xReasonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070633072307321162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-5357413713881615802009-02-18T12:37:00.000+00:002009-02-18T12:37:00.000+00:00Your blog is fantastic:) We have a dauther in Port...Your blog is fantastic:) We have a dauther in Portsmouth and one in Barry, Wales.<BR/>My feelings would be hurt as well suburbia. I'm sorry you have been made to feel say....<BR/>Do you mind if I follow?<BR/><BR/>Steady On<BR/>Reggie GirlMidlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04189854037804749722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-18309144596326989632009-02-18T12:30:00.000+00:002009-02-18T12:30:00.000+00:00Thanks Maggie you are always very sensible. I feel...Thanks Maggie you are always very sensible. I feel fine about it now for myself, but worry that the children will find it strange for a while.<BR/><BR/>Hi Debbie and ACajun, thanks for calling in :)<BR/><BR/>Hi Kitty, thats a lovely idea. I will enjoy my time without them. It just took a while to become ajusted to this new bit of the future.<BR/><BR/>Thanks EW, I have been positive. Hiding feelings is a regular day around here!<BR/><BR/>Hi Fi, gosh, the other side of the world, and mine will only be 3 counties away! I have things planned to do which will be wonderful, it is adjusting to two lives that is tricky.Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-48955604096682928902009-02-18T10:56:00.000+00:002009-02-18T10:56:00.000+00:00I think this is just the beginning of the new situ...I think this is just the beginning of the new situation. People start to take sides.<BR/>SIL is bound to take her brother's side.<BR/>I think it is the right thing to let the children go with their dad and to do something completely different by yourself.<BR/>You will get into a regular routine eventually and I'm sure the 'hurting' will make way for practicalities.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-49261587787859881452009-02-18T10:46:00.000+00:002009-02-18T10:46:00.000+00:00First time over your blog!Sorry to hear about the ...First time over your blog!<BR/>Sorry to hear about the difficulties that you are going through...<BR/>Better days will come!<BR/>Although as difficult that it is...<BR/>Try to keep Positive!<BR/>Debbie MossDebbies-English-Treasureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17900029492125393022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-41530668991630869522009-02-18T10:21:00.000+00:002009-02-18T10:21:00.000+00:00When my kids go away with my ex, I am asked to pac...When my kids go away with my ex, I am asked to pack their clothes, etc. too. I always pack them a little bag from me - with bits 'to do' and some sweets, a book, etc. Perhaps even a disposable camera so when they get back you can get the pictures developed and share their memories with them?<BR/><BR/>It will be fine. It's weird at first, but you do get used to them being away. You might even come to enjoy it, as long as it's not too often, or for too long.<BR/><BR/>xKittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16259837826944310404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-77510143078143306032009-02-18T10:19:00.000+00:002009-02-18T10:19:00.000+00:00These situations are all new and bit of a shock wh...These situations are all new and bit of a shock when they happen. The in-laws not wanting you there is a classic reaction. Just tell the kids to have a good time and be positive with them about the trip.Eternal Worrierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16286099574417884207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-15565229675213634042009-02-18T10:17:00.000+00:002009-02-18T10:17:00.000+00:00My three younger children are on the other side of...My three younger children are on the other side of the world, on holiday with their father....it feels strange. <BR/>Yes, it is part of the new deal... Can you plan to do something positive for yourself that would be hard to do if the children were around. It helps :)Fi from Four Paws and Whiskershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11217307759511472654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-34058215730322875152009-02-18T09:53:00.000+00:002009-02-18T09:53:00.000+00:00Never had that conflict never will.For this hortic...Never had that conflict never will.<BR/><BR/>For this horticultural fan children<BR/>are just one way to leave a trace.<BR/><BR/>Planting, writing, sculpting other options..<BR/><BR/>Also by faith, as some religious fans believe.<BR/><BR/>Nice blog..Antigonum Cajanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05202414125716908027noreply@blogger.com