tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post4095332976365935720..comments2024-03-21T03:59:17.725+00:00Comments on Moments from Suburbia: MotheringSuburbiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-45746911525637868152015-09-30T16:58:53.473+01:002015-09-30T16:58:53.473+01:00I was going to say that I think it's symptomat...I was going to say that I think it's symptomatic of living alone for some time - then I remembered your mum doesn't! <br /><br />I'm seeing a lot more of my uncle now he's in hospital and though he asks how we are and what I'm doing it's not really interest unless it involves him in some way. That's not to say he's selfish but, I don't know, maybe it's an age thing.<br /><br /><br /><br />Liz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-7806050029807573732015-09-24T15:20:08.350+01:002015-09-24T15:20:08.350+01:00Oh it does help Graham! Thanks a lot. :-)Oh it does help Graham! Thanks a lot. :-)Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-87208003619357586952015-09-24T15:18:35.853+01:002015-09-24T15:18:35.853+01:00Thank you Rose :-)Thank you Rose :-)Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-12945112528090451632015-09-23T11:24:50.764+01:002015-09-23T11:24:50.764+01:00I was lucky my Mum was always more concerned/inter...I was lucky my Mum was always more concerned/interested in others than herself. Even when she was ill and clearly struggling it was pretty much never about her.<br /><br />However my mother-in-law... now there is a case study in narcissism if ever you wanted one. My wife has given her grandchildren, been to numerous hospital emergencies and appointments with her, was there when her husband died, was there when her son died - who remember are my wife's Dad and brother too. But she phones up says hello and listens for ages not saying a word then says - "not much. I'll see you Wednesday". She puts the phone down and I say "You never mentioned A or that daugther as B etc." "Why bother it isn't about her she won't care"<br />The worst of all is Christmas she sits in our house surrounded by her family that is left and rather than revel in what she has she goes on about how "my world ended when your brother died". My wife is the definition of stoic in the face of this abuse frankly - but one Christmas I did lose it a couple of years ago and tell her precisely what a self centred old bat she was. Her reaction was to ask my wife to dismiss me from our house. <br />So - I know this doesn't help you directly but I do sense and understand some of your painFurtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-52548490066920039032015-09-20T01:18:05.440+01:002015-09-20T01:18:05.440+01:00This must be so hard, but I doubt she is going to ...This must be so hard, but I doubt she is going to change at this point. My mother has had some serious health issues this summer, but she always asks about me and my family instead of complaining about her own problems. It's her nature; she's always put everyone else before herself, and I realize now how lucky I am to have such a mother. I'm not sure I'm quite so selfless:) Hope you feel better soon, Suburbia!Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01384059342847120951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-68647072857971728762015-09-17T16:38:07.524+01:002015-09-17T16:38:07.524+01:00I think I worry about my children & probably w...I think I worry about my children & probably will until the day I die. <br />Sorry to hear that you think you're doing all the mothering and getting nothing back.<br />I will try & email you..... if I still have the address.<br />Hugs, <br />Maggie xMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-18482522065007950202015-09-15T09:13:27.710+01:002015-09-15T09:13:27.710+01:00Thanks Blue Sky xThanks Blue Sky xSuburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-40892397211385762872015-09-15T09:12:48.881+01:002015-09-15T09:12:48.881+01:00You sound resigned Nick but it's still sad- I ...You sound resigned Nick but it's still sad- I hope I never go down the same path Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-88086877465363965232015-09-15T09:05:58.540+01:002015-09-15T09:05:58.540+01:00My Mum stopped listening to me for other reasons, ...My Mum stopped listening to me for other reasons, but my Dad never did, and I miss him so much because of it. So I thin you have every right to feel sad about not being heard xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6009468722326751050.post-18601876063704275162015-09-14T21:45:36.914+01:002015-09-14T21:45:36.914+01:00Oh, I know exactly what you mean. Both my mother a...Oh, I know exactly what you mean. Both my mother and mother in law are totally self-centred and never ask me anything about my life or what I've been doing. I've given up trying to change them, it's a hopeless task. I phone my mother once a week and have a completely vacuous conversation. The rest of the week I just get on with my own life knowing there's no point whatever in trying to share it with her. It would be nice to have a really close friendship with her but I know by now it's never ever going to happen.nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.com