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Friday, October 18, 2013

Friday night blues

 If men fancy a night in the pub or just want to get out of the house, they don't need to find friends to go with. They can just up sticks and prop up the bar for an hour, even if they don't know a sole in there.

Tonight, that's just what I want to do! The kids are away and it's been a tough working week and all I really want is to see some people - whether I know them or not - and have a few glasses of Merlot.

So tonight I am home with a glass of wine, but I'd much rather be out, even though I am exhausted and a bit tearful and I can't help wondering if I have regressed 4 years or so. Back in Suburbia I felt very lonely and now here I am feeling exactly the same again. Maybe I keep making the same mistakes?

The company of a good friend would be wonderful this weekend. However my best friend is on holiday, most of my girlfriends are married with kids and spend the weekends - understandably - with them and my one and only single friend has gone awol - busy or in love - she's not been in touch for a while.

Is this is the 'lot' of the single woman who has kids one weekend so is unavailable and an empty life the next? I need more friends, more single friends, there must be some somewhere that aren't young enough to be my children!

Life in general seems to be a bit of a struggle right now and when my line manager asked me if I was OK at work today I started to cry! Perhaps I need to go to the doctor? Perhaps I need to blog more! Or just get a life!

What will you do this weekend?

16 comments:

Rob-bear said...

We're moving house this weekend. That's going to be a bit of a challenge, but we expect to survive.

Off to the pub by yourself — why not? Take a book and pretend to read (or read if you want) and do some people watching. If anyone asks what you're up to, tell the person you gathering ideas for your next murder-mystery. Or not, as the case may be.

Blessings and Bear hugs!

Fi from Four Paws and Whiskers said...

I can relate to your situation - Strangely enough, one of our dating sites is also filled with similar single women in this age group - and we have so far had two fun filled wine or brunch get togethers and set up a book club. The men are miffed that we would do this, but the reality is, we want a social life, not just the possibility of men. Fabulous intelligent single women getting together for a laugh in local coffee shops etc and some fun is just what we all need - and if it sometimes involves a pub - bring it on. Life's too short to sit home alone :) xx

Steve said...

I think you need to do something nice for you on a regular basis!

Furtheron said...

From a man who knows I don't advise you head to a pub to drink on you own in that mindset!

Have you read M Scott Peck's Road Less Travelled? I recommend it. The first sentence is "Life is hard" my mate Dave only read that and claimed it the best self help book ever. Hobby? Join a club etc do a course - expand and seek others there will be others doing the same and you'll meet in the middle hopefully.

Suburbia said...

Good luck with the move Bear x

Suburbia said...

It's such a shame you are on the other side of the world Fi!

Suburbia said...

Or not wallow in my own misery Steve! Thanks a lot

Suburbia said...

I appreciate your comment Furtheron. Thanks

Looking for Blue Sky said...

Wish you were closer! I'm always on for a night out, once I've someone to go with :)

When I was younger I did used to go to the local pub in my home town on my own from time to time, but then there would always be people I knew there - even if it was only the bar staff!

Saz said...

aw love...I spent last night in with Merlot and Monty, and tonight too....
its 5.52 am and l'm not asleep, just been up trawling through the sky tv...dog the bounty hunter or some shop tv...watched Dog...
now back in bed..
i think we feel the same... I want to share my bed mostly, have a companion...like you all my girlies are on the family pages...
need more single friends..
wait..are YOU single again...what have i missed..shit

life is hard babe...remember Sub

BREATHE...xxx

nick said...

Sorry to hear you feel lonely. I can get lonely too when Jenny isn't around. It's a weird irony of modern life that we can be surrounded by hundreds of people but not know any of them well enough to go out for a chat and a drink. I hope you bump into someone you can get friendly with, or your single friend gets back in touch.

In the meantime, try and enjoy your own company. Have some good food and wine, find some good movies to watch or books to read, savour the moment! xx Nick

Liz said...

I had the sisters-in-law visiting. It's not that they're unpleasant, they just live different lives from ours. So I'm knackered from extra-cleaning!

Hope you get your bounce back soon. if not, do see the doctor. You may be lacking some vital mineral!

Love to you. xx

Maggie May said...

Oh........ trying to read between the lines and I'm so sorry.
Life is all ups and downs.......
Bad things come in cycles, but then so does good.
I do believe that we tend to have a pattern of repeated behaviour/ choices /mistakes that seem to be part of us. That's why I worry about my children even though they are well & truly old enough to cope with their own mistakes.
I think if we are aware..... then we can break that circle of repeats.
Wish I was a whole lot younger and could pop into a pub with you!
Anyway, thinking of you lots.........
Maggie xoxo

Nuts in May

DD's Diary said...

I often feel the same - tricky, isn't it? I used to go to a poetry group via the local library when I was feeling particularly lonely - even though I didn't meet any soulmates it was definitely good to get out! There are also a lot of craft workshops/book groups at my library, maybe check yours? None of those involve wine but you could change that!

Rose said...

Like Maggie, I'm trying to read between the lines...I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. This is the hard part for a woman--it is hard for a woman to go by herself to a bar. Besides, I know what I would really need in a similar situation is a good friend to talk to and cry with. Hope you are feeling better this week and have some plans to get out and enjoy yourself this weekend!

Saz said...

after work at weekends (and week nights) i settle down on couch with half a bottle (no not every night) and then fight to get to sleep..
singledom is not what we are made for...
for me i have a need to nurture...now its just the cat who has to out up with me, patrick in states, daughter awol still and no one else on said horizon...if we dont get out how do we meet anyone??
heyho....
this is not what i signed up for in 1982...but its what fate and some bad choices has dealt me...so suck it up eh?? punt on

hic hic

luv u x x x saz