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Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Surplus to requirements!

Since having children I have always had a job that means I get all the school holidays off so that we can all be together. It was a conscious decision, after leaving my 'proper job' (pre-kids) that I would find work that fitted with their schedule. It worked well, no childcare problems when school was out, and I always enjoyed having them at home with me; we used to do loads of fun stuff together and it often involved my friends as well, which was always a bonus.

This week I have eschewed a few invites to see friends over the last few days in order to be with my (not so little) ones (time with them is all the more precious now that they spend time with their dad also). However, they - the kids - have had 'other plans'! This is the first school holiday that I have felt surplus to requirements. I suppose it was bound to happen eventually. Though not totally surplus, I have been required to aid Sociology revision, but it didn't really float my boat!

When the children were younger I used to want time to myself, and if any of you have ever had young children around, you'll know its something rare and very hard to find - a moment to yourself. Now I have more moments than I need, my job - mostly - is done. How quickly it went in the end - I didn't need to wish for a moment to myself because it was, in reality, just around the corner. Everyone who has been there before you tells you not to wish it all away but it seemed that life would go on forever in the same way, but things change and here we are...

Small Sprog is lying out on the floor on his back, still in his PJs, watching something absorbing on Youtube. He has helped himself to a massive giant spider (a revolting sweet collection that he received with delight at Christmas, and that he is still wading his way through) together with one of his sisters homemade biscuits (did I mention we made biscuits?) His curly brown hair is in need of taming and I'm not sure he has washed recently! We have a rare conversation about what day it is; "It's Wednesday tomorrow" I say and he nods. That's all he needs to know, that and when the next meal is available to him. However a few minutes later I turn around and he is on the computer "Can I use your email on here?" He says.
"What's it for?" I ask. He looks at me blankly. "Why are you wearing 2 sets of earphones?" I ask. He grins, and lifts one set off...

So there you have it - school holidays with teens; excitement- zero, fun - not much, things achieved - almost none.

What day is it??!

10 comments:

Furtheron said...

Oh dear! Soon it'll be empty nest time - I know how you feel on that one!

Fi from Four Paws and Whiskers said...

Takes some getting used to doesn't it! The good news is they sort of come out of it later and occasionally have a conversation, or some fun, but it pays to arrange that friend time in future :)

Kitty said...

Welcome to my world! x

Rob-bear said...

I am reliably informed that today is Wednesday.

Yes, thing do change as children grow up. Sigh!

Blessings and Bear hugs, Sub!

Looking for Blue Sky said...

Same here, well apart from my special girl, who will always need my help and efforts to entertain her. But then again she often seems to prefer Britney :)

Rose said...

Oh yes, and soon you'll have even more alone time! It's too bad there can't be a happy medium between those busy days when you can't get a moment to yourself and the days when you have too many of those quiet moments. Actually there is--it's called grandchildren!

Maggie May said...

It happens with grandchildren too! We are usurped by screens and other more exciting things!
Oh well....... it was good while it lasted!
Maggie x

Nuts in May

Maggie May said...

Yes...... I understand. As my grandchildren get more independent I'm feeling a bit redundant too.
Live for the day, is the best way forward.
Maggie x

Nuts in May

Lucy Campbell said...

It's time to post a new blog day!! Lx

Liz Hinds said...

Ah yes, surplus to requirements. 'You will come out with me and have a good time whether you want to or not!'