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Saturday, January 17, 2009

My Mum

It is funny how, sometimes, days that you have dreaded turn out to be not so bad in the end. I was not looking forward to breaking my news to mum today. I didn't want to see her upset. However she was wonderful, understanding and calm. She cried a little, because all I said about my relationship resonated with her own, and that is also what spurs me on. In 30 years, I do not want to be where she is now, though she says it is easier of late than it has been for a while.
She is worried for the children, of course, and me too, but she can see I have a strength and resolve to see it through and I think she took some strength from that herself. She has always been there for me, I am very lucky to have her here with me still, no matter how much she flurries in and out of my life! Mums are very special people.

23 comments:

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

in the end we are all mums, wanting our kids to be happy...

hope you are ok...

fff x

Maggie May said...

Suburbia..... I just knew it would be OK. Mum's usually stick up for their kids. You will be doing the same no matter what their age. They are still your kids! You are still hers!

Kitty said...

I'm sure she wants you to be happy above anything else. If your own daughter were in the position that you have been in, I'm sure you'd want her to be happy too. Sometimes we have to do the right thing even if it's the hardest thing of all to do. And showing our children how to live is often the hardest thing of all. Far easier to tell them, than to show them.

(((hugs))) x

Lakeland Jo said...

I am glad you can count on her support

Fi from Four Paws and Whiskers said...

Thats great... I am so pleased for you :)
Mums can often be a surprise eh :)

Rose said...

I had a feeling your mother would be very understanding. Glad to know she's there to support you!

Mean Mom said...

Good for mum. She came through and will be able to give you some support from now on. I know that you are having a difficult time, right now, but it must be a bit of a relief to have finally shared your feelings with a few of the people closest to you.

Dori said...

I recall a decision I made years ago and I was really reluctant to tell my mom. I just knew that she would be confused,hurt and worse-disappointed. Of course she was none of those things. She was my biggest supporter, even telling me that she's not so sure she wouldn't have made the same choice if she had been in my situation. Yes, moms are *very* special people. You're one of those Moms too, you know!

Lindsay said...

Good for your Mum! My mun was just as good to me when I left my first husband - in those days (many moons ago) it was almost unheard of. My mum put up with a lot of snide remarks from her friends!

The Dotterel said...

They are indeed! And you can usually count on them when you need them. Amazing how parents can sometimes surpise you with their reactions, too.

Akelamalu said...

It's good that your Mum is there for you. x

JAMJARSUPERSTAR said...

They'll do, say and think anything for you. So special!
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Working mum said...

Ah, mums. I think we underestimate them, don't we? Yet, we are all mums and will support our children in difficult circumstances, won't we?

Letty - A Little Girl With A Curl said...

Yes, I am so pleased the outcome with your Mum was good, I kinda felt it in my bones it would be, sometimes when we dread things, they never turn out as bad as we think.

Treasure her.

It will be ten years this February, on Valentines Day, when I lost my Mum - and I never realised until she was gone - what a good frined she was to me.

lotsaluv, Letty ;0))))))))

ps if you have your Mum, your strength and resolve, you will be fine on your new path.

Better to be on a new path, than on the road to nowhere.

;)D

Brett said...

Mums can be great at times.

cheshire wife said...

It is surprising how when you least expect support you get the support that you need usually from your mother or sometimes even from your mother-in-law.

starnitesky said...

I am pleased your Mum is there for you, good to have her to support you.
Take Care.

the eternal worrier said...

Talking to a partner can be tough but telling everyone else, (especially children) can be so hard.

nick said...

Not having children and not having been divorced, I don't think I'm qualified to give you any advice. But I'm glad your mum is so supportive. And how right you are to be thinking of the rest of your life and wanting to make sure it's a happy one and not one that you later regret.

Scottish said...

Smiley badge for you mum, and you too!

Jennysmith said...

don't know how i missed this one, sub, please forgive me.

These mothers! Sometimes you don't know what they're going to do. So glad she's with you on this. xxx

Liz said...

Good for your mum and you.

xx

Ladybird World Mother said...

She sounds a Star. Mums are indeed special people. Am very glad you have her close. thinking of you.X