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Friday, May 11, 2012

Markers of time.

"Gardeners question time will be coming from the Malvern Spring Show..." Listening to the radio today I was suddenly taken back to an earlier time. My first date with (now) ExHusband was at The Spring Garden Show, its at the same time every year so a particular marker of time. It's not a thing I think about these days, although in our former years together we would often visit annually as an anniversary sort of thing - we were happy then, but the sudden mention of it did make me contemplate for a while.

On that morning I can remember being ready early. I remember feeling slightly nervous and wondering if I was dressed appropriately, asking the cat what he thought and getting the usual pedigree disdain! We sat together, cat and I, on the kitchen work top, waiting expectantly; it was the bast place to sit in order to watch for cars.

When he arrived he came in for a short time while I went upstairs to get a jacket, meanwhile the Very Bad Cat threw up a fur ball in front of him, leaving him helpless and wondering if he should have intervened. You can't beat a cat's sense of timing when it comes to vomiting or depositing a semi dead rodent when there's guests around.

The memory made me smile yet the memory seems a lifetime away.

This weekend - 17 (or is it 18?) years later- it is Lovely Man's 40th birthday and we have 'Plans'. How strange it seems, that we can look back in time and know what was happening in that time and space so long ago. So lucky that we can't look into the future and see what is in store for us on certain days at certain times. Markers of time, good and bad, are always a fascination to me. Do you like to reminisce?


Steve said...

Checking in with the past is often what keeps me on an even keel in the present.

Mummy Plum said...

I think reminiscing can be helpful sometimes - a reminder of where you came from, or thinking about the start of a relationship, and why you were happy then.

The other day I was thinking alot about our first flat. We were so happy there. Of all the places we've lived together, I think we were happiest there. I really enjoyed thinking about it - and it made me feel better about other stuff too, after a not so good week.

Furtheron said...

I don't know nostalgia isn't what it used to be... :-) Boom boom tsh

Mine are odd - it is like I look back at someone else's life at times, very odd - I try not to too much

Maggie May said...

Yes, I do reminisce. However, I do think it can be a complete waste of time because no one can put the clock back and we move on.

I did chuckle about the fur ball though. You seem to have been always governed by cats!
Maggie X

Nuts in May

Dicky Carter said...

Lovely post Sub. Dates that stick in the mind... there are a couple, ones that I ignore as much as possible.

nick said...

I do reminisce occasionally, usually about memorable occasions in the history of Jenny and I. There's not much else to reminisce about - unexciting jobs, a difficult childhood, political setbacks? I think not. I prefer to make the most of the present day and its opportunities.

Rob-bear said...

The things that come to mind when the mind is at work (which is all the time).

I don't reminisce much, because the things that come to mind tend not to be happy.

Happy Mothers Day. Hope you have a great weekend with the 40-year-old Lovely Man.

Blessings and Bear hugs.

Suburbia said...

Bear thank you

Maggie, it has been governed by cats by design :-)

Nick, yes I must admit I do have to remember to live more for the moment

Thanks Dicky

Furtheron, I can see where you are coming from.

Welcome Mummy Plum, thanks for leaving a comment

Yes Steve, mreminiceing Helps us remember good and bad, I couldn't live without it!

NitWit1 said...

I sometimes ponder past events to remind me why I am where I am, especially if the presient moment is difficult. Sometimes it helps me get through the moment, especially if the past is a pleasant memory.

Ladybird World Mother said...

I LOVE your look on your blog, Suburbia!! Haven't been out blogging in a while so haven't seen your lovely background. Also I love the photo of the greenhouse a couple of posts ago... heat!!
Reminiscing is fun, sad, solemn... all sorts of feelings well up, don't they. Nice when they make you smile. I love to reminisce but don't indulge too much too often as it tends to make me think too much of the past and not enjoy now.

Scargosun said...

I did a good deal of looking back last weekend and wrote about it in my new bloggy home. It was nice to look back and not wince. Also, I am actually originally from the Malvern on this side of the pond. :)

Liz said...

Seems Very Bad cat had a sixth sense when it came to the ex.