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Thursday, December 10, 2009

Shopping

We had a lovely afternoon Christmas shopping, just Tall Girl and me after school on Monday. Small Sprog had gone for tea with one of his many girl friends, he hates shopping, so it was a good opportunity for the two of us to shop in peace.We managed to get some more things for Small Sprogs stocking and a few ideas for my mum. We also bought another present.

Tall Girl and Small Sprog always buy something for me and their dad at Christmas. I help them shop for Husband and, Tall Girl goes with him, at the last minute, to get something for me. This year she was worried I wouldn't want to help her get her dad something. How sad. I reassured her that I would gladly help her, after all it is for her benefit too, it would be sad if they had nothing to give. I wanted to help her enjoy the giving.

For a few weeks now she has been wondering what to get. I suggested she listen out for clues in conversations, but she is a bit young for that yet. Then, last weekend I overheard him telling her about a DVD he wanted. You and Small Sprog can go halves on it, I whispered to them later. They both agreed.

We bought the DVD during our shopping trip, she was pleased she could get something he wanted and will wrap it with Small Sprogs help later in the week. For me though, it felt very strange to shop with him in mind. I was oddly detached, it felt a little like buying something for an elderly aunt that one sees once a year, or an acquaintance that you don't particularly get on with.


11 comments:

Chic Mama said...

Yay for that detatchment!! x

Fat, frumpy and fifty... said...

You are not JUST a lovely mUm, you are a lovely person!!! I'm very proud of you!

Maggie May said...

You are a treasure doing that!

I have finished school until further notice. I felt so emotional about it.

Nuts in May

nick said...

I'm with Chic Mama, a bit sad but also a positive sign that you are moving on to better times.

Working Mum said...

It's funny how children think, and lovely that you were able to reassure her and help her buy her dad's present. Well done you!

Now all you have to do is drop big hints in conversations with her so that she knows what to get you!

Jennysmith said...

Its nice shopping with the little one absent. You can get things done. We;re doing that tonight - packing Son off somewhere so me and Daughter can do a bit of "proper" shopping.

You're doing the right thing encouraging the kids to get their Dad's present but, yes, it must feel strange.

Thank you for your kind and supportive comments. Afraid the fudge went in the bin. Making some candied peel tho'! xxxxx

Steve said...

Your kids are lucky to have you - so good that you put them first and honour their expectations and needs.

Letty - A Little Girl With A Curl said...

oh I had never given thought to all these difficulties.......you are doing so well to be so kind.

This time next year He will be just an acquaintance you don't like much, both in your mind and in your life!

Letty x

Rose said...

Suburbia, this is just further proof of what a good mother you are. And it's a great example of Christmas spirit to buy a present for someone you don't particularly care for. Hope you and Tall Girl had a fun time togehter!

ewix said...

At least you are modeling good behaviour!

Akelamalu said...

A small sacrifice for the sake of the children, the right thing to do. :)